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A collection of 16 posts

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Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)

The RSD-Proof Communication Script for Hard Conversations as an ND Mom

Use these RSD-safe scripts to explain what’s happening in your brain, ask for help without spiraling, and give your partner clear “say this instead” options so hard talks stop ending in shutdown or resentment.

AuDHD mom texting communication script on phone while sitting on couch

ChatGPT for Moms Featured

15 ChatGPT Prompts That Will Help You Unmask as an AuDHD Mom (Without Losing Your Damn Mind)

Ever freeze mid-text because your AuDHD brain hits “words.exe has stopped working” right when you need to set a boundary or repair a rupture? These 15 copy-paste AI prompts are your cheat code: instant, guilt-free scripts that let you communicate like the badass mom you are.

AI Tools Featured

Goblin Tools + ChatGPT: How Neurodivergent Moms Beat Executive Dysfunction in Parenting Chaos (With Real Prompts That Actually Work)

POV: Mid-morning, coffee cold, baby screeching, brain in shutdown mode. Executive dysfunction hits hard in mom mode. Goblin Tools + ChatGPT custom prompts turn chaos into micro-steps. Real AuDHD mom survival stack — no toxic BS.

Fresh start pressure and New Year demands that trigger pathological demand avoidance in neurodivergent adults

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

Why “Fresh Start” Energy Triggers PDA (And What to Do Instead)

New Year's pressure lands like a demand on your already overloaded nervous system. If you have PDA, that "fresh start" hype doesn't motivate—it repels. Here's why January feels like a threat, and the gentler ways to navigate it without internal war.

Exhausted neurodivergent mother sitting alone looking tired, representing the difficulty of unmasking while parenting with autism or ADHD

Unmasking Featured

Unmasking as a Mom: Why It's Harder Than You Expected

Unmasking after your autism or ADHD diagnosis should be straightforward, right? Just stop pretending and be yourself! Except when you're a mom, you're learning who you actually are while a tiny human depends on you showing up consistently every day. Here's why it's exponentially more complicated.

Woman in winter coat holding snowball in falling snow—surviving January's sensory overload and cold weather as a neurodivergent ADHD mom

Why You're Allowed to Hate January (And What to Do About It)

Everyone's doing "new year energy" and you're out here just trying to survive. January is sensory hell, routine chaos, and pressure you didn't ask for. Here's how to get through it without pretending you're thriving.

Woman exercising at gym—neurodivergent alternative to rigid fitness goals that don't work for ADHD and autistic brains

The Neurodivergent Alternative to Goal Setting

Traditional goal setting assumes your brain works in straight lines. Ours don't. Here's how to plan for growth without the shame spiral when your executive function says "absolutely not" halfway through January.

Overwhelmed mother sitting on couch with hands covering her face, experiencing mental load exhaustion

Mental Load Featured

Mental Load Audit for ND Moms: The Complete Guide + Free Download

You're exhausted but can't explain why. Your partner asks "what's wrong?" and you want to cry because WHERE DO I START. The Mental Load Audit helps neurodivergent moms see the invisible labor they're carrying — the tracking, planning, emotional regulation, and mental tabs that won't close.

Overwhelmed neurodivergent woman at desk with hand on head, laptop open, capturing the feeling of waking up already overstimulated with conflicting autistic and ADHD needs

AuDHD Moms Featured

The AuDHD Overlap: When Your Brain is Actively Sabotaging Itself (And What to Actually Do)

Your brain is a reincarnated adventurer trapped simultaneously in two opposing isekai worlds. Welcome to the AuDHD internal civil war. Here’s the forensic breakdown of why your wiring fights itself and how to build "peace treaty" systems that actually work for both sides.

Overwhelmed mom sitting up in bed at sunrise, wrapped in a blanket and staring out a large window, feeling anxious before the day starts.

Sensory Regulation

Overstimulated Before Breakfast: Why You Wake Up Fried (And What to Actually Do)

You wake up and your nervous system is already at a six. No phone, no crying baby — just pure sensory overload hell before you're even vertical. Here is the forensic data on why AuDHD brains don't "reset" overnight and the triage steps to survive the morning.

Neurodivergent woman with glasses sits in bed with laptop and coffee, representing executive dysfunction and working from home in comfortable environment with yellow bedding

Executive Function

7 Executive Function Myths That Need to Die (Like, Yesterday)

Stop blaming yourself for executive dysfunction. These 7 myths about executive function keep neurodivergent moms stuck in shame spirals — when the real problem is trying to force your brain into systems that were never built for you. Here’s what’s actually true about ND executive function.

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The Post-Holiday Burnout Recovery Guide for ND Moms: What to Do When You’ve Hit Empty

The holidays ask more than your nervous system can give. By the time everyone’s gone, you feel hollowed out and weirdly buzzy. This guide helps you understand post-holiday autistic burnout and set up a low-demand January that respects your actual capacity as an ND mom.

A mother and child in Santa hats doing a simple Christmas craft at a table. Image promotes a holiday survival guide for neurodivergent moms who need low-effort, sensory-friendly ideas.

Holiday Gift Planning

20 Easy Kid-Made Christmas Gifts (Designed for Moms With Zero Craft Energy)

A realistic, low-demand guide to kid-made Christmas gifts your toddler can actually make—without you becoming Pinterest’s unpaid intern. Zero perfection, minimal mess, sensory-friendly, and built for moms whose December executive function has left the chat.

Exhausted mother lying face down on hardwood floor with young child in background - overwhelmed mom experiencing sensory overload and feeling touched out

Sensory Overload

Touched Out: A Sensory Ranking for Moms Who Are One Shriek Away From Transcending

Sometimes your baby does something innocent—like placing their damp mouth on your arm—and your entire nervous system screams. Being touched out isn't about love. It's about your sensory system reaching capacity. Here's my ranking of baby sensory experiences that make my autistic brain tap out.

Woman with glasses resting head on hand, looking exhausted on couch in messy living room - representing mom burnout and invisible mental load

Why Neurodivergent Mom Brain Feels Overloaded — Even on Days That Look “Easy”

Why does a “calm” day with your baby still leave you completely flattened? It’s not the visible work—it’s the invisible cognitive load your brain carries all day. Here’s what’s actually happening inside mom brain, why neurodivergent moms feel it more intensely, and how to start lightening it.

Family clinking glasses at a crowded holiday dinner table — bright lights, strong colors, and lots of sensory input.

Holiday Boundaries

The ND Mom’s Guide to Holiday Boundaries: Scripts for When You’re Overstimulated and Everyone Wants Something

Holiday gatherings hit different when you’re neurodivergent. Here are boundary scripts for when you’re overstimulated, touched out, and your brain has clocked out—but people still expect you to perform. No explanations required.